Some relationships in my life right now are withering. I'm really not surprised, only because this happens every time I start digging and soul searching and trying to understand life and things and myself. Certain wonderful people appear that help tremendously, but some of the people that I thought would understand and help the most are gone. Maybe they don't belong in this new chapter of my life? Maybe I'm supposed to slowly write them out of my book until they are just a memory on the pages? I don't know, but I do know that when you bring in something new, you have to get rid of something old to make room. It could be that this is making space for something new and beautiful, something unexpected.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Out with the old so there's room for the new
Relationships are like plants. You must feed, water, and nurture them. Give them light when they need it and shelter them from the cold. But what if you don't know what your plant needs? What if your plant were not showing any signs of dying until it were too late? If something is already weak, say said plant, and a storm were to come along, the chances of it surviving are slimmer than if it were healthy. But who is at fault, is it the plants fault for not showing signs? Or was it showing signs and you just weren't paying close enough attention? I'm pretty sure it's a little of both.
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Good post, Jess , and so true. Keep up the sharing and writing it down so well that we can relate. ...love you lots, Aunt Gerry
ReplyDeleteThanks Aunt Gerry! I love you too!
DeleteWho says we have to get rid of something old when we bring in something new?
ReplyDeleteI think our hearts are bigger than that. I mean, sure, some people are destined to leave your life, and some just come in for a time and then they are gone, but every time I have added a chapter (the good chapters) I have added more people and my life has been richer for it.
And sometimes when I had people leave my life it was because I was too busy with my eyes turned inside, too busy soul searching.
Some one told me one time that I couldn’t love other people until I learned to love myself. I found that is not always true either. If you ever feel a little down, a little alone, a little out of love with yourself, find somebody to show some care to. Get out of yourself.
But I’m older now, and I don’t really remember what is was being 26. I wish I had done what you are doing, and writing it down.
Keep up the writing, Road Less Traveled!
I never truly "get rid" of people. I just tuck them away somewhere and focus on bringing in new loves. My love for them is always there, but it's not taking up all the space inside of me where I could be making room to love others. Thanks for reading :-)
DeleteWell said, there always comes a time when our relationships change. Its good to recognize that its happening
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